You could try greeting him and just mentioning you noticed him in the car late at night. Second, you can plant trees to cover your backyard so you can have your privacy. Every time. What proof do you have? You could approach your employers and ask them to intervene. They could have grown up in a different environment where neighbors always looked out for each other. I know all cases are not this easy and some states dont have stalking or hassment laws. What can I do about this situation? Can you get a photo? Why is this happening? Question: I'm a young female. They have been relentless. This can include flown over someone's backyard, into their home through an open window, and so on. In my view, the best thing you can do is move to another home. There is just something up with this man. I called and told the Police & FBI my ex and roomate has a IOU to the IRS of $10,000. Confrontation, however, can be effective in letting your neighbor know that you are aware of the spying. That commenter was very rude to you. She's always threatening to call the cops for no reason just because I'm outside on MY property. Please know that there is no spy serum or bugging devices in the soup. Install an alarm system. what can I use to stop them form cutting off my TV's. Wherever I walk she follows me. As I don't know what form this behavior is taking, you should know he is not responsible for your safety. I live alone, and have heard a man. On fixed incomes. Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on January 21, 2019: We have that the noises are caused by birds. I'm sorry you're a stalking victim. Answer: You have to make a choice: collect evidence of her spying on you or move out. You find hints that they are listening or watching via some sort of device. It's pure perfection. If you are breaking the community rules, you will have to find a solution. Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on December 07, 2018: Jacob from Delhi, India on December 07, 2018: You have provided interesting information and very helpful for fellow hubbers. There is a large hedge in between us but she sits there constantly complaining about my every move and if I step into the garden she complains I am not giving her any privacy. Also, lots of ongoing phone calls on both cells and home phones. Give them a coat of thick textured paint, or something similar to block them. Management said, the could be having sex for all we know, that I can prove nothing! Report it to the police - make sure you have the video evidence to show them. How can I stop her? When i got stalked by my exboyfriend / roommate i took 1 step CALLED THE POLICE who arrested him and he had to pay a $10,000 bond. Speak to them and ask why they think it's okay to do this. When Im in my car,device,smart tv,at girlfriends apartment, etc. Marijuana is only fully illegal in 15 out of 52 states, with more states partially legalizing it year after year. Let them see you do it, perhaps it'll stop their obnoxious behavior. Answer: Note: the original question has been edited for brevity. But there is an obvious one. What can I do in the meantime to thwart their harassing? Presumably, the only way you can know is if he is repeating things that you are saying. Now Get one and decorate your garden, lawn, corridor, house and anywhere! Any input or advice would be greatly appreciated. Jeanette Harris from 11996 Valley Falls Loop Spring Hill Florida, 34609 on October 19, 2017: I also think people should take responsibility to protect privacy like don't post your private on facebook or any social media. Do a basic internet search with your model number and the words "microphone," "camera," and "privacy.". I didn't read all of it; just enough to know that I love your article. It would still be worth locating the devices if you are able to. I'll get the camera set up first, though. 7 Signs Your Neighbor is Watching You. But now It's gotten worse, my landlord sold out to a realtor and the maintenance man is very buddy buddies with the people who I think are involved in doing this. You can only get a decent view from your home when your own lights are off. Get proof, as suggested in the article, and go to the police. Answer: Of course. We have seen them glued to walls n doors to hear our conversation. While the law is not fully defined when it comes to using GPS tracking devices, it is probably legal to place a GPS device on a vehicle you own. Good thing you deleted his comment. and go ad-free! I took a trip to Stonehenge, and who do I see looking through the rocks across from me? Slow your pace. You, being close, probably pique her interest. They had nothing better to do and were likely sociopaths. However, not in places where there is an expectation of privacy. They have entered your home or property while you were out. Only you will know what you said. If nothing changes, ignore her. (I haven't seen any posts about software, but I hope you might know more than I do.). Find yourself a new place but know little about your neighbors? Question: The neighbors living above my flat are listening and watching me. Go into shops or restaurants to determine if the person follows you inside. If unsure, call your nearest police department and ask where you stand as regards spying neighbors. It's very possible that they being 'sat in silence and recording your calls' is not what is actually happening. Good luck. Make her life as miserable as she is making yours. For example, if you were accused of smoking in your apartment when you did not, you could: Request the property manager inspect your apartment for evidence of smoking. Otherwise what you describe doesn't sounds like harassment. Presumably, your cameras must have captured some video of your neighbors interfering with your property. Then go to the police. Or consult an experienced expert in dealing with spies. It's all in the past now and I never let myself be a victim. She has no car but sits outside it, and from six feet away watches my every move as I get in and out of my car. You don't have to share any personal information with him. I believe I'm a victim of community gang stalking. Answer: Nice tall privacy screens would fix that: https://www.gardenista.com/posts/garden-hacks-10-i And there are tons of ideas on Pinterest: https://bit.ly/2JnGadD. Solid fence but that is not tall enough to block his view from the deck. Some indications include: Bends in the keyholes Your keys are not working as smoothly as before New scratches Ask your neighbors to keep their eyes peeled and consider buying an outdoor surveillance video camera. Lastly, if the stalker has an otherwise clean record, they can turn the tables and make a counter-accusation. I just want my privacy back! Please any advice will be appreciated. I would also be playing music from just inside my back door - not all the time, but for at least an hour a day. I agree, Jeanette. This article appears in our January 2016 issue of Washingtonian. Some stalkers start out by sending unwanted flowers or gifts. They will also be able to tell you if someone is interfering with your TV service. It uses the cell phones magnetometer function to find a spy device. Sometimes an investigator might walk on the opposite side of the street. Move the thing they are attacking to another location. It was confirmed when my landlord told someone right in front of me to at our recent tribunal dispute. The information provided was quite helpful Bev G. I am certain that one of my neighbors has a listening device on the roof of my house. Answer: Your attorney should be able to advise you regarding measures you can take. Play loud music. Question: The neighbor has been caught on my security camera handling and taking pictures of packages addressed to me about three times. We can understand when we talk with other neighbors. Answer: If your neighbor is on your property then it certainly is a crime. Each case is different. I told my cousin that I was craving scones and clotted cream, and no more than 40 minutes later, my neighbor was at my door with scones and clotted cream. Question: The neighbours above me keep waking me up with low frequency base noise about 15 to 20 times a night. I see her watching us through the window. This can depend on how comfortable you feel interacting with your neighbor. Obviously these are false accusations and slander. Question: I know my next door neighbor is recording my music and conversations, I can hear it after I have everything shut off. I wanted to comment on your article yesterday, but my PS3 won't let me do it. I am scared. If she threatens to call the police then tell her to do so. Follow the advice given in the article regarding how to deal with them. You see signs that someone has entered your home while you were out. You see signs that someone has entered your home while you were out. It will explain how to locate such devices and remove them. If you hear a strange voice coming from your security camera, no doubt that your security camera has been hijacked, and someone is spying on your through the camera. There are several tell-tale signs that someone is tracking your car. You can buy a bug detector with a broad radio frequency range and do regular bug sweeps of your house. This person's gaze is intense and terrifying and this is affecting my sleep. I was wondering if this is considered illegal or invasion of privacy or something along the lines of that. Is your neighbor spying on you, watching your every move? Question: Living in government housing are my rights void? Answer: I could give you plenty of advice of what to say to your neighbor but I don't think it would be allowed. Keep a log book of every incident. You are structuring your life and behavior around them. Need some help thanks. Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on January 05, 2019: If you have proof of the existence of this device, you can report him for illegal bugging of your apartment. Its convenient for them to have their rental properties near each other. Same clocks. The biggest sign that a camera is fake is that it will lack a short cable, an infrared light indicator, and won't have a proper brand name. The easiest way to tell if your neighbor has a listening device is to run a background check. Many new homeowners might fall for the tricks used by strangers conjuring up an excuse to use the toilet of yours but meanwhile walk . This has been going on for 10 years. If you have a mutual landlord, then report the abuse to them. You always call the cops. He is, however, responsible for his own actions and if you find them uncomfortable or disturbing, give him a wide berth and stay right away from him. You should also bring in an IT expert who can advise regarding your wifi. Please refresh the page and try again. Wave and say 'hello'. As soon as i get up out of my chair all conversations upstairs stop and all ears on me. If you can prove they are recording your calls, then go to the police, otherwise live your life as if they weren't there. So it's okay for you to be up at 2am, but not for them? I dont have a clue who this person is. Question: I live in Germany and I have a neighbor upstairs. It must be difficult to tell if she is sleeping or not. What should I do? She has video and pictures of me walking in and out. My advice is to get proof somehow, you have to record the recordings. If you're driving, move over to the slow lane and drive the speed limit. Make sure to keep one eye on your surroundings while doing so. Question: How can I catch my neighbor who is spying on me? I am very sensitive regarding my privacy. A casual small talk can reveal a lot and maybe he or she ain't no bad person at all. PS: I will understand if you don't approve this comment. Can they legally spy on me? If you think you're being spied on, the best way to confirm is by using a radio counter-surveillance system to track down the drone. Question: I live with my grandfather in a mobile home community, he owns his home. This can make you feel better about neighbors who spy on you and your family. My own mother jokes about reading in her car on her drive in winter as it gets nice and warm when the sun is out. Remember that men living in apartments do tend to laugh a lot and raucously. I go to my room, someone drives by - caught on my cameras (always same cars). Feeling that you are being watchedand in your own home, especiallycan profoundly affect every aspect of your life. Inside the door speakers. In particular, small devices such as pinhole microphones or video cameras, rest on the other side of a ceiling or wall and may leave an impression. Yes. Our property lines and homes are less than 10 ft. apart. Is there anything I can do? The neighbors across the street are reporting to the community when my car is here and how much I visit etc. And my daughter overheard my husband and I talking about that, and how it seems like there are poisoning our dogs; so my 10-year-old left a note on their patio asking them again please not to feed our dogs and they proceeded to call the cops on my 10-year-old for leaving a letter on their doorstep even though they have been known to leave anonymous letters to not only to my family but other neighbors in the neighborhood. Yet, despite being friendly with the community, there's a good chance you want a few things to remain private. Before moving and I showed the property manager experience I was having at the prior Apartments she seemed very general stating that she would help me upon moving into the unit I found that I was being monitored I let it go for about a month and then I wouldn't toast nothing has been done it's been over 6 months and they still are honoring I want you to police they said there's nothing they can do tomorrow, news station what else do you suggest. Have lights on timers turn on in the middle of the night to indicate that you are awake while you are asleep in another room. It may be very small, but a circular spot, no larger than a coin, is a signal that you are being spied on. How do I know if he is spying? Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on June 25, 2020: The problem is that the police often don't have enough evidence to act. A perfect choice to make every passer . Using your neighbor's Wi-Fi Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on May 28, 2020: Hi Stella, sorry I can't help you with this. Neighbor harassment can take many forms, including: Derogatory or offensive comments about sexual orientation, your nation of origin, or other discriminatory factors. What are our options? I kept records, I made regular trips to the police with evidence and eventually they had enough to act. She just loves delving deep into topics that help everyone become a happier, healthier, more productive person. Is this too close? They really are spying on you, but you have no idea why. Its time to take control and fight back. What you need to do is tell your parents what he's doing. These neighbors are just busy bodies who need to be told directly to fck off. Repeatedly playing loud music during city "quiet hours" or after you have asked them to stop. Ive had this happen to me my lovely neighbor told me that he is keeping an eye on me 4 weeks into that nightmare his friend comes along with a bright spot light pointed at my home other neighbors who are aware tried to chase him down for his license plate. Now they had cameras pointed directly at our house that they turn on every single time my husband and I go check the mail take the trash out or just hang out outside to enjoy the weather. There would be no point in a device on the roof, it wouldn't be an effective location for it. Do not be intimidated. There have been robberies in our house (expensive stuff,our clothes,footwear etc).The whole family has that crooked weird look always.All this when they have been ignored by us since we moved. Based on the poll, take a look at top signs of a nosey neighbour: Curtain twitching (30 per cent) Turning the TV or radio down so you can listen to goings on (27 per cent) Peeking through blinds . More women are victims of stalking than men. Refresh the page, check Medium 's site status,. Why is that? Otherwise, you'll just have to accept that he's rather eccentric and fond of your style. I go into more detail about this method in the article. Police have not helped either. HubPages is a registered trademark of The Arena Platform, Inc. Other product and company names shown may be trademarks of their respective owners. Its a family home and my aunt and her oldest son still live next door. We do live in the state of Colorado so I dont know if it varies state to state but like I said before any input on the situation would be helpful. People should be jailed for spying and stalking. Since I'm hardly any fun anymore, I usually only have 5-8 of my closest friends . If not, then I would simply go about your business and ignore her, taking great satisfaction in doing so. She has been spreading nasty rumors around town to make me look terrible and recording my conversations and sending them to another nosy jealous cow. Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on October 12, 2018: Jennifer, I can't help you. I think she might have a listening device. There are many suggestions in the article, the Q&A and the comments. Also, upstairs neighbor kept knocking hard on their upstairs wall that right below one of our bedrooms in an attempt to wake us. Answer: Your neighbors can't have visual surveillance of you unless they have installed cameras in your home. Theres no point being constantly worried that you are being spied on if it isnt actually happening. Back up the phone recordings onto a pen drive or similar and make sure each recording correlates with an entry in your log. Same couches. Make sure it is completely untrue but very specific. Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on March 13, 2018: Didn't read the whole article then, Michael? To Freda, if you think for one second I would allow you to post reams of people's personal identifying and contact details, you are sadly mistaken. Could the have a listening device in the property which could penetrate the walls? Where he was put back in jail until court date 3 months. They have left notes in my mailbox telling me I need to move to the mountains and find God and they have also done that with other neighbors. She has also gone through my trash and questions who I bring over. Answer: It's not possible to state the reasons for your neighbor's behavior. I assume this is a crime. They like to start petty quarrels You might be the type of person who does not like to quarrel but, somehow, you seem to always find yourself having petty fights with a person who is secretly plotting against you. Are you one of them? Most scary is that the neighbors might disconnect and restart the software at some later date and also scary is that the neighbors and/or the software are/is becoming smarter. Question: My neighbor has bugged my house or is listening to me somehow, as they have given me a consistent indication, how can I protect my privacy? I plant my flowers, he does too. 968.31 (c) &885.365 (1)) states that a party in the conversation may record it, or when permission has been given by one party. Your mail is being interfered with. Can a listening device be used from inside a neighbor's home which is approximately 200 feet away to listen inside my home? Are you a nuisance neighbor yourself? Every time we turn the curb, he peeps through the bushes. I also have observed that the noises are heard most when i am talking. Make sure there are no spy-holes in the ceiling. He does this constantly, mostly at night. So recently Ive been getting stalked for about 5 years now, by multiple people Ive been to school with and more people I dont even know of. Question: My neighbor next door seems to know a lot about people in the area, and I don't know how she gets her information. In the US, 6.6 million people are stalked every year. There are people who can help you. You can usually tell when something feels off in your house when you come in. He/she doesn't say much to begin with, their way of communicating is non-verbal. All rights reserved. Youre not alone here. He is not on the phone. That's your only choice. What can I do about this? Also, think about moving. You spot a nosy neighbor peering at you through the curtains with relative frequency. The few times I have spoke with them they have asked me on several occasions whos car was parked in front of my house on this day at this time. All is well. However, stay cool and don't let fear dictate your day or everyday doings. I am further convinced that they are using a type of listening device. His window is open and there is no radio playing. Maybe they arent spying on you, but you feel so insecure and lacking in confidence that you think everyone is watching you. They are obsessed with local crime rates and make it their business to monitor the street. Richard Green from New Mexico on October 19, 2017: Well, now that you mention it, we haven't rewarded our neighbors properly and my husband has been making wine. Got CAD # from my local police reports I have made. When I'm sitting on the stall, someone from upstairs starts to constantly flush their toilet right above my bathroom. Spying is considered stalking if it makes you feel uncomfortable, and this is illegal. This applies to both walking and driving. Bev G (author) from Wales, UK on June 13, 2020: Good idea, TFP. Having a landlord that spies on you prevents you from the quiet enjoyment of the rental property. xx. Drone spying involves someone using a drone to spy on another person or group of people. Also, I am surprised that you say he is a 'friend'. Being spied on if it makes you feel better about neighbors who spy you! 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